SENIORS, ELDERS AND GRANDPARENTS DAY
Sunday, August 10, 2008
Christopher B. Davis, Guest Lectionary Commentator
Pastor, St. Paul Baptist Church, Memphis, TN;
Adjunct Professor of Preaching, Memphis Theological Seminary, Memphis, TN
Lection - Exodus 20:12
(New Revised Standard Version)
(v. 12) “Honor your father and your mother, so that your days may be long in the land that the Lord your God is giving you.”
I. Description of the Liturgical Movement
Society has placed a great deal of emphasis on youth. This is not wrong in and of itself. It is especially the right thing to do if
the young are seen as those who will shoulder the responsibility of building upon the foundation which has been laid for them, and
leading us toward the next chapter of creation history. However, if we are obsessed with youth to the detriment of elders, then we
have failed miserably in understanding this important commandment of God. There is an adage that says, “Don’t forget the bridge
that brought you over,” and the bridge in this case are our elders, seniors and grandparents.
II. Biblical Interpretation for Preaching and Worship: Exodus 20:12
Part One: The Contemporary Contexts of the Interpreter
I was born to a fifteen year old single mother. However, to my mother’s immediate benefit and my life-long gain, I was brought home to a room
that had been prepared for my mother and me, in the home of Caledonia Easter Lonnibell Hampton Lewis Yancy, affectionately known as Big Mama.
Big Mama was my great grandmother, and looking back over my life, I now am certain that she is the person who has made the biggest impact on
every aspect of my life. Her home-spun wisdom and admonitions still resonate as I seek to rear my own children. I cannot forget her saying,
“Don’t mess around and shorten your days
Which was her way of keeping Exodus 20:12 ever before me. Or, “Don’t put a ten dollar
hat on a ten cents head.” In other words, what is in your head will always be more important that what you put on your head.
I have thought about big mama during this riveting election season. Critical questions are being raised concerning the state of the Union.
Is it healthy? What does the future hold for us? In order to answer these questions, I do not look to the military pundits even if they
do understand what is needed to keep us safe in a terrorist laden age. I do not look to those who will hold offices, regardless of their
political affiliation. I do not even look to the economic analysts, although they may be keenly proficient in financial forecasting.
In assessing the state of our union, I remember Big Mama and I first look to see how we are treating our elders. If the elderly are
being honored, the union is headed in the right direction.
Part Two: Biblical Commentary
“Honor thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land...”
Regarding Exodus 20:12, Augustine says, “It is your parents you see when you first
open your eyes, and it is their friendship that lays down the first strands of this life.
If anyone fails to honor his parents, is there anyone he will spare?”
The principle of filial respect, love, and reverence for elders is such a foundational cultural
principle that it has found a place in every moral code. Confucius based his moral system wholly
upon the principle of parental authority; for the Romans it may have been the underpinning of their
political institutions. In the Decalogue, the position of this fifth commandment, at the head of the
duties of the Children of Israel towards others, marks its importance, which is further shown by it also
being “the first commandment with promise” (Ephesians 6:2).
The Fifth Commandment is pivotal to the rest of the commandments. Yahweh understood that his laws would be transferred
by the Israelites from generation to generation through elders teaching them to children. In order for children to be
proper receptacles of holy teachings, they would have to respect those who were their teachers. Just as the laws of Jewish
culture could not be passed on unless children respected their parents and elders enough to learn and heed their laws and
customs, our faith will not be passed from generation to generation unless we respect our elders enough to learn and heed
their faith teachings. We will truly show how much we honor our elders, by how we carry forth the faith and moral code
they have bequeath to us. Although the transmission of culture and religion begins with children, this is not a commandment
aimed at little children. No, this is a commandment to those who have matured and are now in position to heed and live out
the commandments of God.
It is also notable that the first word in the commandment is not, obey
. It was always presumed, even by God, that children
should obey their parents, and that parents should teach them how not to disobey. The first word is honor. Old Testament scholar Brevard Childs says,
“The choice of the term ‘honor’ carries with it a range of connotations far broader than some such term as ‘obey.’ To honor is to ‘prize highly’
(Proverbs 4:8), ‘to show respect,’ to ‘glorify and exalt.’ Moreover, it has nuances of caring for and showing affection (Psalms 91:15).
It is a term frequently used to describe the proper response to God, and is akin to worship (Ps. 86:9). Moreover, the parallel command
in Lev. 19:3 actually uses the term ‘fear, give reverence to' which is otherwise reserved for God.”1
Most modern biblical commentators generally assume that the promise of long life for honoring one’s father and
mother was not personal, but national—the nation’s days would be made longer. This sentiment resonates with me
and bears out my earlier contention that one can assess the state of a Union/a nation by how it treats its elders.
For much of our history as African Americans, seniors have been considered one of our greatest assets.
Not only are they great repositories of wisdom and experience, but they were the teachers of the faith.
It was on their knees that we learned to love God, to love self, and to love community. Honor our elders,
“that our days may be long upon the land.” Interestingly, God offers this as a way to lengthen our days
on the land. Our days will increase on the land that God has given us to work
and on which to live. Honor your parents, elders, grandparents, great grandparents that thy (yours, the
community’s, the nation’s) days may be long. Instead we are worried that aging Baby Boomers will become a burden on our society and empty
the pensions and savings coffers of younger persons. The choice is ours we can do as God commanded and prosper
or adopt a self-centered posture that causes us to lose sight of our elders and lose our way.
If God allows, we too will become well-worn travelers and we will desire that those who are younger honor our graying locks, our
wrinkled hands, and our well-lined brows. But this is not the reason we now give honor to those on whose shoulders we stand. We
honor them and the path that they have cleared for us, because we are holding fast to the first commandment of God which also comes with a promise.
The descriptive details of this passage are not self-evident from the text but thoughtful consideration of the passage will reveal details such as
The sweet sound of songs sung by elders in the church, the yells of elders who have chastised us; the soothing
voices of elders reading to grandchildren;
Senior women dressed in large hats that drape them like crowns, the black metal and wooden canes of seniors; and
Aromas of pies and vegetables baked by a granddaughter using grandmother’s recipe.
III. Other Recommendations
If you are an adult with living parents, honor them by discussing while they are fit and healthy how they would
like to live out their years of retirement. Purchase insurances while they are healthy. If you ultimately have to make
decisions regarding nursing homes, medical procedures and more, always ask: Will the action I want to take honor the life of this person?
If your parents and grandparents are deceased be sure that the youngest members of your
family are told about the departed. Take the young with you when you go to place flowers on graves.
Tell stories about the deceased and how they impacted your life.
Honor your heritage. During family reunions and other celebrations, honor your
elders and allow younger family members to participate. You can do this by naming scholarships
in honor of special elders and or by giving a donation in their name to churches or causes they supported while alive or in the case of living elders, still support, etc.
- Childs, Brevard S. The Book of Exodus: A Critical Theological Commentary. Philadelphia, PA: Westminster Press, 1974. pp. 418-19.